Open in app

Sign In

Write

Sign In

Sarah Tomolonius
Sarah Tomolonius

43 Followers

Home

About

Feb 12, 2021

The Grief Manual: At Two Years

What no one ever told me is that when loss soaks in for more than a year, the memories of the person you lost bleed through the time they were here in the flesh. …

Life

4 min read

The Grief Manual: At Two Years
The Grief Manual: At Two Years
Life

4 min read


Dec 31, 2020

The Grief Manual: The Photos

Warning: While not graphic, this post does contain description of deceased person shortly after their death. Yesterday, as my mother and I sat in the police station, the detective slowly pushed the manilla folder across the table to us, saying, “We’ve never done anything like this before. We didn’t expect…

Life

11 min read

The Grief Manual: The Photos
The Grief Manual: The Photos
Life

11 min read


Feb 7, 2020

The Grief Manual: A Single Year

Making ourselves brave I have always said you changed who I am, Hannahbelle, immeasurably and for the better. But, it still feels like a heartlessly cruel punishment that I have to reflect on this, your one-year “anniversary” (what are we supposed to call it?), and not with you. I like…

Love

7 min read

The Grief Manual: A Single Year
The Grief Manual: A Single Year
Love

7 min read


Jan 31, 2020

The Grief Manual: Meditation

Searching For a long time — for most of my life — I turned over the smooth, round, shadow-grey stones at my feet, hoping I would lift them to find some treasure or fulfillment, or at the very least some small, moving salamander or even larva, underneath. All I found…

Family

11 min read

The Grief Manual: Meditation
The Grief Manual: Meditation
Family

11 min read


Jan 7, 2020

The Grief Manual: Remembrance

Together and alone I sit now on the other side of the thorny thicket of the first winter holiday season without my sister and in the cold, unsteady but gently learning hands of a new year and a new decade. That this year is 2020 is not lost on me…

Family

10 min read

The Grief Manual: Remembrance
The Grief Manual: Remembrance
Family

10 min read


Dec 2, 2019

The Grief Manual: Magical Realism

The Gift of the Magi My 92-year-old grandmother called to tell me she wants to give me the ring she has always worn. Now, before she loses it, she said, but what I heard was: “Now, because I am dying soon.” The ring was her favorite aunt’s, and I’ve never…

Life

11 min read

The Grief Manual: Magical Realism
The Grief Manual: Magical Realism
Life

11 min read


Nov 19, 2019

The Grief Manual: Turning, Slowly

My sister, Hannah, died nine months ago. I am immeasurably changed, but, then, how else would I be? Grief, like time, is always moving. It ambles forward or sideways in its thick, plodding way. Just as decay is inscribed into the building plan of everything fresh, grief — that black…

Love

9 min read

The Grief Manual: Turning, Slowly
The Grief Manual: Turning, Slowly
Love

9 min read


Sep 11, 2019

The Grief Manual: Orientation

I used to be half-in/half-out about what happens after we die. Are there spirits? Is there a place? Is there anything? But, seven months after she has died, the more I am forgetting the exact touch of my sister Hannah’s hand and the precise features of her face, the more…

Life

14 min read

The Grief Manual: Orientation
The Grief Manual: Orientation
Life

14 min read


Aug 17, 2019

The Grief Manual: The Gift

We are the patrons of grief. We bear the burden of loss embroidered into each of our lifetimes. …

Life

13 min read

The Grief Manual: The Gift
The Grief Manual: The Gift
Life

13 min read


Aug 6, 2019

The Grief Manual: Unknown

Tumbling in the unknown Hannah, my sister, died from a gunshot wound to the heart. The complete answers to how and why exist somewhere, but the reality is that — despite our best efforts — we may never know exactly what precipitated her death. Desolation comes from no answers, from…

Life

12 min read

The Grief Manual: Unknown
The Grief Manual: Unknown
Life

12 min read

Sarah Tomolonius

Sarah Tomolonius

43 Followers

Help

Status

Writers

Blog

Careers

Privacy

Terms

About

Text to speech